Do These Match?
Eric Karls • June 5, 2024
Habits
It’s the start June and any New Year New Me mayseem like a distant memory. Take a minute to revisit them. Losesome weight, workout out more, eat healthier, improve relationships, betterbusiness. These are the typical things we say we want to improve. So whycome the middle of the year have we fallen back into the old routines that madeus want a change? We really do want these things, and we think we aretrying, but are we?
Do our actions match our desires?
- I want to eat healthier, but I have sweet tooth.
- I want to work out consistently, but I just don’t have the time.
- I want the spark back in my marriage, but my wife never seems to pick up on the vibes I throw out when I watch Netflix in my old sweatpants and a stained t-shirt.
- Business could improve, but I can’t seem to move the needle, which is weird, I’m doing exactly what I’ve done in the past.
Let’s break these down.
- First off, if you have a “sweet” something, it doesn’t look like it’s your tooth. I’d be more likely to belief you if you said, I have “sweet ass cheek” or a “sweet gut”. Let’s stop blaming a tooth for eating like 10-year-old. Now, if you want to start eating better, start making your actions match your desire. Stop buying candy and other shitty snacks. If they aren’t in your house, you can’t eat them. You know what else is sweet? Fruit! I’ve never met anyone who said they are having a hard time losing weight because of their love of strawberries. Full disclosure, I like something sweet at night, but I make myself a protein shake. I leave the sweet treats for the kids. THAT’S A LIE, we don’t have that shit in our house and the kids don’t need that either. Stop blaming having that crap in your house because other members of the family need it, THEY DON”T!!!
- What time do you wake up? Great! Wake up an hour earlier. I know, it’s that easy! Don’t like that idea? Go workout during your lunch break. Don’t like that idea? Buy a kettlebell and the book, Kettlebell Simple and Sinister ~Pavel Tsatsouline. Keep them both in the car and turn the parking lots of your kid’s dance, basketball, fill in the blank into your own mobile gym. The point here, don’t say you don’t have the time, say you aren’t making the time. We make time for our priorities, if it matters, you will make the time.
- I want to have more sex with my wife. Should I complain to her about it and every other stupid thing I feel intitled to complain about? Should I act and dress like a slob? Should I never think about what her feelings/desires are? What women doesn’t see a man dressed in his business khakis complaining about his day while he tries to get that annoying sweet tooth to shut up and say to herself, “I just want to bang the shit out that guy”. I apologize if that got a little aggressive (I really don’t) but life isn’t a porno movie. We can’t just expect to walk into a room and our significant other is going to get so overwhelmed with desire that they just rip their clothes off. We need to put some work in. Be the person someone would be attracted to. See numbers 1 and 2, start making an effort to stop complaining, ask her how you can help her out, ask her about her desires, plan some dates, cook some meals, take care of the kids. Be the man women want.
Ladies, I haven’t forgotten about you! This advicegoes for you as well. Last time I checked, sex was best with two people. If youwant a man, you want to desire. Throw him a bone occasionally. Express what youwant, don’t just sit and wait for it. Help support each other and it might nothurt to upgrade your old sweatpants and grannie panties with holes in them.
- Insanity – Doing the same thing and expecting different results. I want to do better in my business, but I’m already working hard. You’re not going to like this, but work harder, oh and it might not hurt to work a little smarter as well. Figure out where you want to go, what it takes to get there, and work on that shit EVERYDAY. “I make 40 calls a day and have 5 meeting.” Then make a 100 calls and schedule 10 meetings. The Disruptive Entrepreneur How? See #2 and figure it out. I don’t care what anyone says, we waste time during the day, figure out where you do, stop doing it, and get more actual work done. Do this EVERYDAY, not one or two, or a week, EVERYDAY! For how long? As long as it takes! There are no overnight successes. It’s about putting the work in. See War of Art ~Steven Pressfield
No one said any of this was going to be easy,but it will be worth it! There are enough average people in world, decideyou want to be more. “There are those that do and those that don’t. Those that will and those that won’t.” The only regrets people have at the endof their lives is the things they didn’t do.
In Strength,
Eric Karls, M.Ed.
CrossFit Conductor Chief Awesomeness Engineer Certified Level 3 CrossFit Coach
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